"One of the most important relationships we have is the relationship with our mothers" - Iyanla Vanzant.
The mother-daughter bond is one of the most intricate relationships we will have throughout our journey. Your mother is the portal not only to this realm but beyond. We are the windows into their future, and they are the windows to our past.
The umbilical cord connects us in the womb and the energic umbilical cord after. That's why we have a sense of "knowing" when something is wrong with our children. Your mother is your guide along this journey; she helps you navigate through this realm, and wherever she is, feels like home because her presence brings comfort and rejuvenation to your spirit.
Once in her presence, you feel that you now have the strength to conquer the world.
That depiction was of the hope that many of us may long for; to be connected to our mothers. While I'm fully aware that this isn't the experience of everyone, however, it should be the goal. Whether your mother is living or transitioned, there is still time to connect with her if you choose to.
If you are a mother of daughters yet did not have a good example or blueprint, allow me to offer you a suggestion. Be to your daughter who you needed. Let's not use the excuse that "you only did to your daughter what was done to you" and continue to kill the unbreakable bond that you have the power to create despite your experience. When you keep that thought/mantra at the forefront of everything, I guarantee you that you will create a bond with your daughter that you could have only imagined for yourself.
Instead, let's embody the mindset that "if it hurts YOU, then why would you want to imprint that same hurt onto your daughter"? We have to change the narrative for future generations.
"A mother teaches her daughter how to feel about herself, about handling pressure, about relishing life's joys and conquering fears" - Melissa Harrison